Says little or nothing at time of conflict or decision
Express feelings and opinions openly without attacking
Lets others make decisions
Hides anger and resentment
Says what he/she wants and thinks
Attacks, criticizes, complains, intimidates/insults
Won't say honestly what the problem is or how he/she feels
Respects others, Doesn't blame others
Expects others to read their mind
Expects others to know what he/she wants
Describes behavior. Chooses for self, not others
Often resentful. Feels sorry for self.
Over reacts, uses sarcasm
"Gets even" by pouting, spoiling everyone's time, complaining to others, griping under breath, etc.
Doesn't always have to "win" or be right. Doesn't try to dominate
"Gives in" rather than asserting self, Feels negative
Tries to get her/his way by whining, flirting, being "cute."
Ready to compromise, but doesn't "give in" on everything.
Has little self confidence
Asks questions that are hostile but pretends to want answer
Listens but doesn't respond. Thinks little of own ideas/opinions
Listens but doesn't "hear." Has own ideas.
Doesn't see choices/options
Wants more than their share of "turns"
Doesn't state opinion at time but sabotages final choices
"I'm not OK, but you're OK."
"I'm OK, but you're not OK."
"I'm OK, you're not OK, but I'll let you think you are, then I'll make you miserable.
Passive-Aggressive Behaviors
